Striving to be an equal in our society

There are times when I am both frustrated and annoyed by the disabled community in general.  I constantly hear how people strive to be equal in our society but only a few of us are willing to pursue this right to equality.  Too many people in our society are happy to let others do the donkey work while they just sit back and watch and I for one have had enough.
Equality and accessibility in society is very important to me and one area that I have got passionate about is the lack of decent accessible guest accommodation in hotels.  During any year I do a fair bit of leisure travel along with my best friend and apart from one exception I have to say that I have been very disappointed by recent hotel stays.  Being able to use a shower cubicle I try often with little success to try and find a hotel that has a bathroom that has a separate shower and bath tub.  These bathroom facilities are usually only available when you book a high grade executive room or suite and recently this is what we had done on a recent visit to Birmingham.  The accessible guestrooms at the hotel in which we stayed were equal to standard guestrooms but with out the addition of a sofa or comfy chairs.  Most hotels do not offer accessible guestrooms in higher room grades or suites. 
Most hotel accessible rooms I would describe as having only basic furniture requirements, a bed, bedside tables, desk and chair, drawers.  Often accessible rooms come as a double bed and this means that if you are travelling with a carer or friend you then have the extra cost of another guestroom.
Many hotels have a bathroom with a lowered bath tub and this is something that I have yet to find someone who can tell me the thinking behind this.  Like many disabled people I have poor upper body strength and therefore would not be able to utilise this facility.  Most accessible bathrooms are often described by guests as being "medicalized" or "clinical" because of there cold and sterile appearance.  The tiling is usually white or grey in colour and apart from the usual bathroom fittings there is no nice shelving or special little touches.
In a recent enquiry I was told that all the accessible guestrooms were bath tub, but if I wanted a shower I could use the hotel gym facilities.  This is what the Crowne Plaza at Birmingham NEC who considered this a reasonable adjustment.  I have to say this is not the first time I have been told this, it first happened at the Holiday Inn at Stratford upon Avon in 2009 and that time it was the swimming pool showers.
I am currently doing my own research into hotel accessibility and facilities and I am very disappointed with the results so far.
Building regulations (2004, updated 2013) states that Part M states 4.19 unless there are compelling reasons for not doing so, there should be as many en-suite shower rooms as en-suite bathrooms and 4.24 at least one accessible wheelchair bedroom is provided for every 20 bedrooms or part thereof.  My own research shown that none of the hotels that I have contacted follow these guidelines.  I will continue to gather information before deciding where to take this.